Sisterhood

I've been debating how to start this post. Different thoughts and emotions that I haven't been able to sort out. So forgive me if this doesn't flow well....

You are the only person I would clean toilets for. And it wasn't really all that bad. At least I'm not traumatized by it. And if you let me, I'm going to clean out your fridge.

And while you have not cleaned any of my toilets, you have supported me and helped me through endless obstacles in life. From messy breakups, to self destructive depression, to helping me walk when I was too weak. I think we're even. If anything, I owe you.

Remember in 8th grade when I was selfish and actually used the phrase, "What is mine, is mine. And when I share it with you, it becomes less mine." In actuality, I didn't want to share you with them, not the other way around. I was scared you would make better friends with someone else and leave me behind.

I had lost so many friends over the years. Not really lost, but had to share them with other friends. And when you are young and in elementary school, arguments and fights happened on a daily basis over the most trivial things. And friends would pick sides. Best Friends would change almost weekly. I was tired of that. And I was afraid if you became friends with my older friends, you would be caught up in the confusing, petty turmoil of adolescence.

We never fought. We flowed together on a consistent wave of friendship, embracing both the highs and lows together, never against each other. Looking back over the past 15 years, we haven't fought much. I can name all our fights (at least the big one):

1. The fight over my selfishness with my older friends

2. "The Dark Years" when we didn't talk because we couldn't embrace our differences (approx. 1995 - 1998) This technically wasn't a fight. We were just oblivious to each other.

3. The fight when I canceled our road trip to Tennessee. And in the end, I think you'd agree, we would have killed each other. We're more like sisters than best friends.

That's all that stands out. Maybe because those are the ones I started.

I am happy to say, I've grown up. I'm more than happy to share my friends with you. I love that you and Michelle talk (and she's invited to your wedding in ONE MONTH!!). I'm happy that I was able to introduce you too. Just please don't leave me for her......

I will admit, I've been jealous of times. Emily got to see you every day. I'm lucky if our crosses pass more than once a month. And Angie gets to do fun things like camping with you (remember our canoe trip! Remember?) There are so many more from years past.

I can't experience everything with you. We'd kill each other.

I think its good that we each have other "best friends". I'm ready to share my friends with you (although I must warn you, don't play Monopoly with Michelle: she hits). And I want to meet all of yours. I can't wait to meet Emily at your bridal shower. And Angie is so quirky and full of spirit that she surprises me every time I see her. And I barely knew Mandy and Nikki in high school, but thanks to you, I get excited when I do see them.

I think we have finally realized our friendship, our bond is strong enough to share friends.